If you were shamed or rejected for your anger in childhood, those feelings may be closely intertwined with your anger now. Reflect back on those moments. Discard the shame, replacing it with an affirmation of your worth and goodness. Promise that you will never reject or abandon the hurting child within you.
The hurting child*
給內心受傷的小孩一個愛的擁抱；你不必再聽那些大人們的斥責了！
You can’t change the past and your can’t change those who abused you or make them sorry, if they choose not to be. Claim the power you do have . You can decide to express your anger to them now. If doing so would put you in a vulnerable or painful situation, you can decide not to.
Power*
你有權力表達自己的憤怒，那是為了和解，不是為了報復。
As an adult, you can choose to see those who hurt and abused you in childhood as flawed, unaware, wounded. You no longer depend on them for survival; you’re not as vulnerable to their rejection. Let them be. And let your anger go.
Let go*
揮手自茲去，不受塵埃半點侵。
If your anger is deeply rooted, you may need professional guidance to deal with it. A counselor can help you remove the layers of unresolved anger and shame and lead you toward a clear sense of yourself as precious and worthy of love.
Precious*
不要因為別人的愚蠢而否定自己的價值，我們都是造物者手上的寶貝。
Once you deal with your anger, you can turn your attention to forgiving. When you hold on to your resentment, you freeze yourself in a victim’s role, freezing some of your emotional energy as well. Let the warmth of understanding and the awareness of your worth thaw your emotions.
Forgive*
得饒人處且饒人，何為懷憂心煩傷？
Listen nonjudgmentally and without fear to other’s anger—including that of children. Respect and validate their anger, whether or not your agree with their issues their anger belongs to them and need not threaten you.
Respect*
別人也有憤怒的權利，你可以傾聽，但是不必去承受。
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