Along with expressing your feelings, you may need to take further action to eliminate reasons for your anger. Determine what you can do: decide your priorities, change your behavior in a relationship, address your own needs. Then do it.
Take action*
生悶氣無濟於事，行動！行動！行動！
Changing a problem situation usually takes more than one confrontation with another or more than one instance of different behavior on your part. Be persistent.
Persistent*
一步一腳印，堅持才能有收穫。
Don’t act or attempt serious communication in the heat of anger. At this time, your strongest desire may be to retaliate and hurt others the way you’ve been hurt. And your communication will likely be ineffective and consequently rejected, which will only intensify your sense of injustice. Remember that anger itself is a reaction and shouldn’t be an action.
Communication*
心平氣和的對話才能釐清問題，歇斯底里的嘶吼只會震聾對方的耳朵。
Anger is at times so intense because it can be about past situations as much as – or even more than – the present. If your anger seems out of proportion to what apparently triggered it or if it never quite seems to go away, start looking backward. You may have accumulated layers of pushed-down denied, ignored anger.
Past*
與過去握手言和，向往事乾杯致敬。
Ask yourself if the way you new feel reminds you of how you felt before. Recall the circumstances that surrounded your past, a door through which you can enter and bring healing to old, unresolved issues.
Open a door*
打開塵封的記憶，揪出讓憤怒發酵的霉菌。
As a child, you were probably not equipped to deal with your anger or even allowed to express it. Yet if you were abused or mistreated or your boundaries violated, if you were not allowed to fully be and express your unique self, then your spirit was broken. The anger your felt was a healthy response. Allow the child within you to remember and to experience that anger now.
Remember*
記憶是為了寬恕，接納自己也原諒別人。
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