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(chorus)
When you taught me how to dance
Years ago with misty eyes
Every step and silent glance
Every move a sweet surprise
Others must have taught you well (Someone must...)
To beguile and to entrance
For I wont forget that night (For that night you cast your spell)
When you taught me how to dance (And you...)
Like reflections in a lake
I recall what went before
As I give, I learn to take
And we'll be alone no more
Other lights may light my way
I may even find romance
But I won't forget that night
When you taught me how to dance
Cold winds blow But up on those hills
You find me And I know
You're walking right behind me
2007年1月29日 星期一
Anger Therapy(5)---by Lisa Engeihardt & Karen katafiasz
If you were shamed or rejected for your anger in childhood, those feelings may be closely intertwined with your anger now. Reflect back on those moments. Discard the shame, replacing it with an affirmation of your worth and goodness. Promise that you will never reject or abandon the hurting child within you.
The hurting child*
給內心受傷的小孩一個愛的擁抱；你不必再聽那些大人們的斥責了！
You can’t change the past and your can’t change those who abused you or make them sorry, if they choose not to be. Claim the power you do have . You can decide to express your anger to them now. If doing so would put you in a vulnerable or painful situation, you can decide not to.
Power*
你有權力表達自己的憤怒，那是為了和解，不是為了報復。
As an adult, you can choose to see those who hurt and abused you in childhood as flawed, unaware, wounded. You no longer depend on them for survival; you’re not as vulnerable to their rejection. Let them be. And let your anger go.
Let go*
揮手自茲去，不受塵埃半點侵。
If your anger is deeply rooted, you may need professional guidance to deal with it. A counselor can help you remove the layers of unresolved anger and shame and lead you toward a clear sense of yourself as precious and worthy of love.
Precious*
不要因為別人的愚蠢而否定自己的價值，我們都是造物者手上的寶貝。
Once you deal with your anger, you can turn your attention to forgiving. When you hold on to your resentment, you freeze yourself in a victim’s role, freezing some of your emotional energy as well. Let the warmth of understanding and the awareness of your worth thaw your emotions.
Forgive*
得饒人處且饒人，何為懷憂心煩傷？
Listen nonjudgmentally and without fear to other’s anger—including that of children. Respect and validate their anger, whether or not your agree with their issues their anger belongs to them and need not threaten you.
Respect*
別人也有憤怒的權利，你可以傾聽，但是不必去承受。
The hurting child*
給內心受傷的小孩一個愛的擁抱；你不必再聽那些大人們的斥責了！
You can’t change the past and your can’t change those who abused you or make them sorry, if they choose not to be. Claim the power you do have . You can decide to express your anger to them now. If doing so would put you in a vulnerable or painful situation, you can decide not to.
Power*
你有權力表達自己的憤怒，那是為了和解，不是為了報復。
As an adult, you can choose to see those who hurt and abused you in childhood as flawed, unaware, wounded. You no longer depend on them for survival; you’re not as vulnerable to their rejection. Let them be. And let your anger go.
Let go*
揮手自茲去，不受塵埃半點侵。
If your anger is deeply rooted, you may need professional guidance to deal with it. A counselor can help you remove the layers of unresolved anger and shame and lead you toward a clear sense of yourself as precious and worthy of love.
Precious*
不要因為別人的愚蠢而否定自己的價值，我們都是造物者手上的寶貝。
Once you deal with your anger, you can turn your attention to forgiving. When you hold on to your resentment, you freeze yourself in a victim’s role, freezing some of your emotional energy as well. Let the warmth of understanding and the awareness of your worth thaw your emotions.
Forgive*
得饒人處且饒人，何為懷憂心煩傷？
Listen nonjudgmentally and without fear to other’s anger—including that of children. Respect and validate their anger, whether or not your agree with their issues their anger belongs to them and need not threaten you.
Respect*
別人也有憤怒的權利，你可以傾聽，但是不必去承受。
2007年1月25日 星期四
Anger Therapy(4)---by Lisa Engeihardt & Karen katafiasz
Along with expressing your feelings, you may need to take further action to eliminate reasons for your anger. Determine what you can do: decide your priorities, change your behavior in a relationship, address your own needs. Then do it.
Take action*
生悶氣無濟於事，行動！行動！行動！
Changing a problem situation usually takes more than one confrontation with another or more than one instance of different behavior on your part. Be persistent.
Persistent*
一步一腳印，堅持才能有收穫。
Don’t act or attempt serious communication in the heat of anger. At this time, your strongest desire may be to retaliate and hurt others the way you’ve been hurt. And your communication will likely be ineffective and consequently rejected, which will only intensify your sense of injustice. Remember that anger itself is a reaction and shouldn’t be an action.
Communication*
心平氣和的對話才能釐清問題，歇斯底里的嘶吼只會震聾對方的耳朵。
Anger is at times so intense because it can be about past situations as much as – or even more than – the present. If your anger seems out of proportion to what apparently triggered it or if it never quite seems to go away, start looking backward. You may have accumulated layers of pushed-down denied, ignored anger.
Past*
與過去握手言和，向往事乾杯致敬。
Ask yourself if the way you new feel reminds you of how you felt before. Recall the circumstances that surrounded your past, a door through which you can enter and bring healing to old, unresolved issues.
Open a door*
打開塵封的記憶，揪出讓憤怒發酵的霉菌。
As a child, you were probably not equipped to deal with your anger or even allowed to express it. Yet if you were abused or mistreated or your boundaries violated, if you were not allowed to fully be and express your unique self, then your spirit was broken. The anger your felt was a healthy response. Allow the child within you to remember and to experience that anger now.
Remember*
記憶是為了寬恕，接納自己也原諒別人。
Take action*
生悶氣無濟於事，行動！行動！行動！
Changing a problem situation usually takes more than one confrontation with another or more than one instance of different behavior on your part. Be persistent.
Persistent*
一步一腳印，堅持才能有收穫。
Don’t act or attempt serious communication in the heat of anger. At this time, your strongest desire may be to retaliate and hurt others the way you’ve been hurt. And your communication will likely be ineffective and consequently rejected, which will only intensify your sense of injustice. Remember that anger itself is a reaction and shouldn’t be an action.
Communication*
心平氣和的對話才能釐清問題，歇斯底里的嘶吼只會震聾對方的耳朵。
Anger is at times so intense because it can be about past situations as much as – or even more than – the present. If your anger seems out of proportion to what apparently triggered it or if it never quite seems to go away, start looking backward. You may have accumulated layers of pushed-down denied, ignored anger.
Past*
與過去握手言和，向往事乾杯致敬。
Ask yourself if the way you new feel reminds you of how you felt before. Recall the circumstances that surrounded your past, a door through which you can enter and bring healing to old, unresolved issues.
Open a door*
打開塵封的記憶，揪出讓憤怒發酵的霉菌。
As a child, you were probably not equipped to deal with your anger or even allowed to express it. Yet if you were abused or mistreated or your boundaries violated, if you were not allowed to fully be and express your unique self, then your spirit was broken. The anger your felt was a healthy response. Allow the child within you to remember and to experience that anger now.
Remember*
記憶是為了寬恕，接納自己也原諒別人。
2007年1月14日 星期日
Anger Therapy(3)---by Lisa Engeihardt & Karen katafiasz
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If you feel as if you’re going to explode in anger, change your physical responses into harmless physical activity. Breathe deeply, run a mile, swing a tennis racket. Later, return to your anger and deal with it peacefully and productively.
Productive*
利用你的怒氣從事體力勞動：鋸鋸木頭，拖拖地板．．．讓你的家更舒服。
Venting your anger in a controlled way to a sympathetic listener can bring temporary relief. But venting in itself won’t solve the underlying problems that are triggering your anger. Search for those problems and deal with them.
Venting*
洩完了洪就應該去尋找源頭，一勞永逸地剷除禍根。
When you’re angry at others, tell them directly what disturbs you and why. Don’t shame, blame, attack, ridicule, lecture, interpret or analyze their behavior. Use “I” statements. Be specific in your requests.
Directly*
不要冀望別人會讀心術，坦然說出你內心的感受；遮遮掩掩往往是在煽風點火。
When you’re expressing your anger to others, you don’t need to convince them that your position is right. Listen with empathy to their point of view. Allow them to feel angry too (without blaming yourself for their anger). And then together try to arrive at a creative solution that meets the needs of both of you.
Empathy*
將心比心，其樂融融；一意孤行，處處碰壁。
Expressing anger may be difficult if you were taught to soothe over conflicts or to defer to others’ feelings. Recognize when these old lessons have you stuffing your anger. Pleasing others at your own expense is not kind or peaceful. It’s violence to your own psyche.
Express*
寬容並非忍耐；自由地表達出情感，你的心才能空出來包容一切。
There will be times when expressing your anger will be extremely difficult and painful. The outcome may be uncertain; you may be risking great change in your relationship. But just as God gives you anger to protect yourself, God provides courage to take the action your anger demands. Your courage is within you; ask God to help you find it.
Courage*
委屈自己並不能獲得真愛，你得有勇氣展現自己真實的情感。
If you feel as if you’re going to explode in anger, change your physical responses into harmless physical activity. Breathe deeply, run a mile, swing a tennis racket. Later, return to your anger and deal with it peacefully and productively.
Productive*
利用你的怒氣從事體力勞動：鋸鋸木頭，拖拖地板．．．讓你的家更舒服。
Venting your anger in a controlled way to a sympathetic listener can bring temporary relief. But venting in itself won’t solve the underlying problems that are triggering your anger. Search for those problems and deal with them.
Venting*
洩完了洪就應該去尋找源頭，一勞永逸地剷除禍根。
When you’re angry at others, tell them directly what disturbs you and why. Don’t shame, blame, attack, ridicule, lecture, interpret or analyze their behavior. Use “I” statements. Be specific in your requests.
Directly*
不要冀望別人會讀心術，坦然說出你內心的感受；遮遮掩掩往往是在煽風點火。
When you’re expressing your anger to others, you don’t need to convince them that your position is right. Listen with empathy to their point of view. Allow them to feel angry too (without blaming yourself for their anger). And then together try to arrive at a creative solution that meets the needs of both of you.
Empathy*
將心比心，其樂融融；一意孤行，處處碰壁。
Expressing anger may be difficult if you were taught to soothe over conflicts or to defer to others’ feelings. Recognize when these old lessons have you stuffing your anger. Pleasing others at your own expense is not kind or peaceful. It’s violence to your own psyche.
Express*
寬容並非忍耐；自由地表達出情感，你的心才能空出來包容一切。
There will be times when expressing your anger will be extremely difficult and painful. The outcome may be uncertain; you may be risking great change in your relationship. But just as God gives you anger to protect yourself, God provides courage to take the action your anger demands. Your courage is within you; ask God to help you find it.
Courage*
委屈自己並不能獲得真愛，你得有勇氣展現自己真實的情感。
Anger Therapy(2)---by Lisa Engeihardt & Karen katafiasz
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Identify the trigger for your anger; clarify what’s happening. Are rights and boundaries---yours or another’s---being violated? Are you compromising or losing yourself in some way? Are your needs, dreams, talents being ignored?
*Clarify
當眼淚洗淨蒙塵的心靈，自我才能撥雲見日。
In the process of identifying what’s causing your anger, you determine what is and is not acceptable to you. This is vital self-knowledge. Use it to guide your choices and shape your life.
*Self-knowledge
人生不必求全，明晰的自我認知會讓你歡喜過日子。
Determine how you can change the situation that is causing your anger. Sometimes there’s specific action you can take. Sometimes you can remove yourself from patterns of relating that generate anger. Sometimes all you can do is change your attitude. But you can always do something.
*Do something
最快的洩憤方式就是激怒別人，當然，這是錯誤的法則！
Focus on what you can do that will decrease your anger. It may seem as if others are the problem; if only they would change…but you can’t change others. People are not responsible for your anger, only for their actions. No one else can take your anger away.
*Others
不要讓自己的情緒掌握在別人手裡，你得做自己的主宰。
Like a laser, anger can be a potent force for destruction or healing, depending on how it is used. Anger misused can destroy relationships with sharp words, fiery explosions, and smoldering resentments. Used effectively, anger can cut surgically through emotional debris, allowing healing change to happen.
*Healing
憤怒幫我們找到傷口；誠實面對自我能使傷口癒合。
When you’re angry, your body responds with increased pulse, breathing, and blood pressure; muscles tense up; adrenaline is released. Don’t try to defuse your anger with unrestrained ranting and yelling. Contrary to popular belief, it will only intensify your rage and physical responses. To calm your anger, you need to find a way to act effectively.
*Calm
冷靜不是壓抑。記得：用冷靜的腦為胸中的怒火降溫。
Identify the trigger for your anger; clarify what’s happening. Are rights and boundaries---yours or another’s---being violated? Are you compromising or losing yourself in some way? Are your needs, dreams, talents being ignored?
*Clarify
當眼淚洗淨蒙塵的心靈，自我才能撥雲見日。
In the process of identifying what’s causing your anger, you determine what is and is not acceptable to you. This is vital self-knowledge. Use it to guide your choices and shape your life.
*Self-knowledge
人生不必求全，明晰的自我認知會讓你歡喜過日子。
Determine how you can change the situation that is causing your anger. Sometimes there’s specific action you can take. Sometimes you can remove yourself from patterns of relating that generate anger. Sometimes all you can do is change your attitude. But you can always do something.
*Do something
最快的洩憤方式就是激怒別人，當然，這是錯誤的法則！
Focus on what you can do that will decrease your anger. It may seem as if others are the problem; if only they would change…but you can’t change others. People are not responsible for your anger, only for their actions. No one else can take your anger away.
*Others
不要讓自己的情緒掌握在別人手裡，你得做自己的主宰。
Like a laser, anger can be a potent force for destruction or healing, depending on how it is used. Anger misused can destroy relationships with sharp words, fiery explosions, and smoldering resentments. Used effectively, anger can cut surgically through emotional debris, allowing healing change to happen.
*Healing
憤怒幫我們找到傷口；誠實面對自我能使傷口癒合。
When you’re angry, your body responds with increased pulse, breathing, and blood pressure; muscles tense up; adrenaline is released. Don’t try to defuse your anger with unrestrained ranting and yelling. Contrary to popular belief, it will only intensify your rage and physical responses. To calm your anger, you need to find a way to act effectively.
*Calm
冷靜不是壓抑。記得：用冷靜的腦為胸中的怒火降溫。
2007年1月11日 星期四
Anger Therapy(1)---by Lisa Engeihardt & Karen katafiasz
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Anger is God’s gift, part of the essence of your humanity, a response you need to survive and to thrive physically and emotionally. Use your anger to protect and preserve your true self.
Protect*
憤怒不是發脾氣，是從靈魂深處湧出來護衛自己的力量。
Anger is a signal---that your rights have been violated, your needs aren’t being met, you’re compromising yourself in some way, and injustice has been done. Let anger be a catalyst to learn more about yourself and create change for the better.
Signal*
注意憤怒的警訊，你的自我在求救。
You can turn the pain of anger into energy for change with five steps: Acknowledge your anger, identify its cause, determine what your can do, express your feelings judiciously, and, if necessary, take action.
Change*
化憤怒為力量，勿用悲戚絆此身。
You may have learned to avoid, deny, or repress your anger because disturbing emotions can accompany it; You feel “bad”, childish, insecure, powerless; you believe you’ll be disliked and rejected; you fear being out of control. Accept your anger as an emotional fact---and a tool your can use for personal transformation.
Accept*
接受自己的憤怒，你才不會遷怒他人。
Anger that your lock inside can lodge in body cells and tissues, muscle tension, digestive disorders, high blood pressure, insomnia, and other physical problems. Be good to your body by acknowledging and dealing with your anger.
Body*
善待此一身，不要讓憤怒在體內悶燒。
Anger can come in different disguises or be an unseen facet of other emotions, like depression, grief, irritability, anxiety, hatred, guilt, shame, withdrawal, or resentment. And sometimes those emotions can show up as anger. Take time to sift through your moods and feelings to discover and hidden anger.
Discover*
爬梳己亂紛紛的心緒，讓內在的小孩說話。
2007年1月10日 星期三
那大的孩子－網路文章
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昨天MOLLY要出門上學時,因弟弟ALLEN不小心打翻了湯,
弄髒了她的衣服,差一點讓她遲到....
她有點生氣.....
晚上睡前,
我與她分享了一段網路上流傳的文章,
發生在911雙子星大廈爆炸案......
我簡單的告訴她這個故事的經過
與多少無辜的人葬送在這場災難中.....
我想告訴她的是,有很多人佼倖的逃過這一劫,
是因為生活中一些小事的牽絆.....
有一個老闆因為兒子第一天開學所以他請假....
有一個人自認很倒楣因被差去買甜甜圈.......
有一個人因那一天穿了新鞋,
要上樓時發現腳起水泡,於是他轉彎到藥局買OK繃.....
這些人,因生活中的牽絆而倖存活了下來.......
於是我告訴MOLLY,
生活中若發生任何小事絆住我們,
我們都不須動怒與抱怨......
我們要心存感謝.....
她點點頭說她懂!!!
但她突然在我枕邊說起了另一場災難.....
她說: 媽咪,我記得上次什麼大海嘯時
我聽妳和爸爸說過,
有一個媽媽抱著兩個孩子被大海嘯沖走,
最後她選擇放棄那大的小孩,
妳跟爸爸也說,要是你們的話,你們也會一樣,
為什麼?
聽她這樣一問,我的心一糾,一陣難過在心底,
這不是好幾年前發生的事了嗎?
原來大人隨口聊天的話在小孩的心中是留下痕跡的,
她當時並沒有問我,
但,我想這一個她不懂的故事,
在她心中必留下小小的陰影....
因為她也是那大的孩子!
我擁她入懷抱,我想了很久,
不知該如何告訴她這一個感人又痛心的故事....
我不知該如何讓她釋懷一個媽媽
是如何的心痛放手那大的孩子?
我很認真的告訴她,
因為那個媽媽當一手各抱著一個小孩被大海嘯捲入,
當她決定放開一隻手,
是因為她知道唯有兩隻手用力抱住一個孩子，
才能讓小孩有活著的機會,
至於,她為何選擇放手那大的孩子而抱住僅兩歲的兒子?
我很認真的告訴她,
不是因為那媽媽不愛那大的孩子,
而是,
她知道那大的孩子必有智慧去求生,
她知道那大的孩子可能會聰明的抓住樹幹漂流,
她知道那大的孩子如果漂流到岸邊一定也會想辦法生存,
她知道那大的孩子如果得救，
一定會告訴別人他的家人是誰?
她知道那大的孩子....上帝必看顧.... .
...... MOLLY說她聽懂了,
她問我,那最後呢?那大的孩子有沒有找到媽媽?
我說:「有!那大的孩子好勇敢,
他被一個澳洲人救起後，
在醫院找到了媽媽,一家團圓!!」
MOLLY開心的笑了,說:
「那大的孩子好棒呦!!!
難怪妳也會選擇放棄我.......」
........
妳有沒有因為不經意又不自覺的一句話或動作
而傷害過小孩呢?
其實,很多小孩的傷害來是父母,
一個傷自尊的斥責,
一個動怒的巴掌,
一次無心的棄離,
甚至一個沒有說明的故事,
有的是無心之過,
有的是刻骨之痛,
有的是一輩子難以抹滅的傷痕,
感謝昨晚的分享讓我修復了MOLLY
那大的孩子小小心靈的一個小小傷痕!
昨天MOLLY要出門上學時,因弟弟ALLEN不小心打翻了湯,
弄髒了她的衣服,差一點讓她遲到....
她有點生氣.....
晚上睡前,
我與她分享了一段網路上流傳的文章,
發生在911雙子星大廈爆炸案......
我簡單的告訴她這個故事的經過
與多少無辜的人葬送在這場災難中.....
我想告訴她的是,有很多人佼倖的逃過這一劫,
是因為生活中一些小事的牽絆.....
有一個老闆因為兒子第一天開學所以他請假....
有一個人自認很倒楣因被差去買甜甜圈.......
有一個人因那一天穿了新鞋,
要上樓時發現腳起水泡,於是他轉彎到藥局買OK繃.....
這些人,因生活中的牽絆而倖存活了下來.......
於是我告訴MOLLY,
生活中若發生任何小事絆住我們,
我們都不須動怒與抱怨......
我們要心存感謝.....
她點點頭說她懂!!!
但她突然在我枕邊說起了另一場災難.....
她說: 媽咪,我記得上次什麼大海嘯時
我聽妳和爸爸說過,
有一個媽媽抱著兩個孩子被大海嘯沖走,
最後她選擇放棄那大的小孩,
妳跟爸爸也說,要是你們的話,你們也會一樣,
為什麼?
聽她這樣一問,我的心一糾,一陣難過在心底,
這不是好幾年前發生的事了嗎?
原來大人隨口聊天的話在小孩的心中是留下痕跡的,
她當時並沒有問我,
但,我想這一個她不懂的故事,
在她心中必留下小小的陰影....
因為她也是那大的孩子!
我擁她入懷抱,我想了很久,
不知該如何告訴她這一個感人又痛心的故事....
我不知該如何讓她釋懷一個媽媽
是如何的心痛放手那大的孩子?
我很認真的告訴她,
因為那個媽媽當一手各抱著一個小孩被大海嘯捲入,
當她決定放開一隻手,
是因為她知道唯有兩隻手用力抱住一個孩子，
才能讓小孩有活著的機會,
至於,她為何選擇放手那大的孩子而抱住僅兩歲的兒子?
我很認真的告訴她,
不是因為那媽媽不愛那大的孩子,
而是,
她知道那大的孩子必有智慧去求生,
她知道那大的孩子可能會聰明的抓住樹幹漂流,
她知道那大的孩子如果漂流到岸邊一定也會想辦法生存,
她知道那大的孩子如果得救，
一定會告訴別人他的家人是誰?
她知道那大的孩子....上帝必看顧.... .
...... MOLLY說她聽懂了,
她問我,那最後呢?那大的孩子有沒有找到媽媽?
我說:「有!那大的孩子好勇敢,
他被一個澳洲人救起後，
在醫院找到了媽媽,一家團圓!!」
MOLLY開心的笑了,說:
「那大的孩子好棒呦!!!
難怪妳也會選擇放棄我.......」
........
妳有沒有因為不經意又不自覺的一句話或動作
而傷害過小孩呢?
其實,很多小孩的傷害來是父母,
一個傷自尊的斥責,
一個動怒的巴掌,
一次無心的棄離,
甚至一個沒有說明的故事,
有的是無心之過,
有的是刻骨之痛,
有的是一輩子難以抹滅的傷痕,
感謝昨晚的分享讓我修復了MOLLY
那大的孩子小小心靈的一個小小傷痕!
2007年1月8日 星期一
You Are Always on My Mind
Always on my mind(永在我心中)
Maybe I didn't love you quite as good as I should have
也許我沒有好好的愛你
Maybe I didn't hold you quite as often as I could have
也許我不常擁抱你
Little things I should have said and done
一件該說、該做的事
I just never took the time
我從沒有花時間去做
You were always on my mind
但你永遠在我心中
You were always on my mind
你永遠在我心中
Maybe I didn't hold you all those lonely, lonely times
在寂寞時光裡，我也許沒有擁抱著你
And I guess I never told you
我想我從沒告訴過你
I'm so happy that you're mine
我很高興你屬於我
If I made you feel second best
如果我讓你感覺不是最好的
I'm sorry, I was blind
抱歉，我是盲目的
You were always on my mind
但你永遠在我心中
You were always on my mind
你永遠在我心中
Tell me, tell me that your sweet love hasn't died
告訴我，你那甜美的愛尚未逝去
Give me, give me one more chance to keep you satisfied
再給我一次機會來滿足你
Maybe I didn't love you quite as good as I should have
也許我沒有好好的愛你
Maybe I didn't hold you quite as often as I could have
也許我不常擁抱你
Little things I should have said and done
一件該說、該做的事
I just never took the time
我從沒有花時間去做
You were always on my mind
但你永遠在我心中
You were always on my mind
你永遠在我心中
Maybe I didn't hold you all those lonely, lonely times
在寂寞時光裡，我也許沒有擁抱著你
And I guess I never told you
我想我從沒告訴過你
I'm so happy that you're mine
我很高興你屬於我
If I made you feel second best
如果我讓你感覺不是最好的
I'm sorry, I was blind
抱歉，我是盲目的
You were always on my mind
但你永遠在我心中
You were always on my mind
你永遠在我心中
Tell me, tell me that your sweet love hasn't died
告訴我，你那甜美的愛尚未逝去
Give me, give me one more chance to keep you satisfied
再給我一次機會來滿足你
2007年1月4日 星期四
紅玫瑰與白玫瑰讀後感（轉貼好文共賞）
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不論中港台，眾多華人在繁簡交錯之間，談論張愛玲小姐的〔紅玫瑰跟白玫瑰〕的文章中，很難得看到一篇論述清楚，又有自我主張及見解的讀後感，真捨不得讓它埋沒了，轉貼過來跟大家分享！
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掙扎於紅玫瑰與白玫瑰之間，振保以為做了自己世界的主人，卻反為命運所主宰。他喜歡的是熱的女人、放浪一點的、娶不得的女人，但他卻不得不臣服於道德禮教、社會規範之下，選擇了世俗眼光下的賢妻良母作為他的妻子。但是他自認為最理想的選擇，卻成為他生命中不可抹滅的遺憾！
他過的並不快樂，甚至於悲慘。雖然他有房子、有老婆、有小孩，可是在他心底深處，他總有缺憾：那熱情美艷的紅玫瑰已不在他身邊了。在他自己的花園裡，只剩下那朵純潔的白玫瑰，清一色的白，乾淨白淨，卻也空洞乏味。或許得不到的永遠是最好的吧！不然怎麼會說「娶了紅玫瑰，久而久之，紅的變了牆上的一抹蚊子血，白的還是『床前明月光』；娶了白玫瑰，白的便是衣服上沾的一粒飯黏子，紅的卻是心口上的一顆硃砂痣。」
振保以為他不是這樣的一個人，但卻也擺脫不了這樣的命運，如果他真娶了嬌蕊，必會遭受周遭親友的反對、社會道德的批判。可想而知他這麼一個「最合理想的中國現代人物」，一定會後悔這樣的抉擇，覺得當初應該選一個賢慧單純的妻子。但現實相反，他又感到不滿。也許，「妻不如妾，妾不如偷，偷不如偷不著」真是亙古不變的定理吧！至少因為分離，在他的心中，紅玫瑰是永不枯萎、永遠妖豔的。
當振保與嬌蕊再度重逢，他以為自己可以趾高氣昂地向她展現自己過的有多麼的好，但他卻錯了，而且錯的離譜。他看見的，是嬌蕊幸福滿足的模樣。在她面前，他是那麼地不堪，甚至連她的老都嫉妒。嬌蕊是曾經愛玩荒唐，但自從遇到振保，他學會了如何去愛，也找到屬於自己的那份幸福。而振保呢？尋尋覓覓，幾經波折，繞了一大圈後，卻又回到了原點。在他的愛情領域裡，仍是孤身一人。因為，他學不會愛人，所以也永遠找不到真愛。
他過的並不快樂，甚至於悲慘。雖然他有房子、有老婆、有小孩，可是在他心底深處，他總有缺憾：那熱情美艷的紅玫瑰已不在他身邊了。在他自己的花園裡，只剩下那朵純潔的白玫瑰，清一色的白，乾淨白淨，卻也空洞乏味。或許得不到的永遠是最好的吧！不然怎麼會說「娶了紅玫瑰，久而久之，紅的變了牆上的一抹蚊子血，白的還是『床前明月光』；娶了白玫瑰，白的便是衣服上沾的一粒飯黏子，紅的卻是心口上的一顆硃砂痣。」
振保以為他不是這樣的一個人，但卻也擺脫不了這樣的命運，如果他真娶了嬌蕊，必會遭受周遭親友的反對、社會道德的批判。可想而知他這麼一個「最合理想的中國現代人物」，一定會後悔這樣的抉擇，覺得當初應該選一個賢慧單純的妻子。但現實相反，他又感到不滿。也許，「妻不如妾，妾不如偷，偷不如偷不著」真是亙古不變的定理吧！至少因為分離，在他的心中，紅玫瑰是永不枯萎、永遠妖豔的。
當振保與嬌蕊再度重逢，他以為自己可以趾高氣昂地向她展現自己過的有多麼的好，但他卻錯了，而且錯的離譜。他看見的，是嬌蕊幸福滿足的模樣。在她面前，他是那麼地不堪，甚至連她的老都嫉妒。嬌蕊是曾經愛玩荒唐，但自從遇到振保，他學會了如何去愛，也找到屬於自己的那份幸福。而振保呢？尋尋覓覓，幾經波折，繞了一大圈後，卻又回到了原點。在他的愛情領域裡，仍是孤身一人。因為，他學不會愛人，所以也永遠找不到真愛。