Stay Away Trouble Makers

What do I mean "Stay Away Trouble Makers"?

You see there are so many people on the earth.
These people have good days to make them happy.
They have bad days to make them sad too.

Just very few of them are always unhappy.
The reasons of their problems are mutiple.
But in common, you will find somehow the majoy reason of their unhappiness always is someone else's fault.

Is that ture?
Do you believe that someone should make your life better?
Or do you think people can destroy your life without your permit?
Most of us would not think so, but some of them do believe that.
Those people are "Trouble Makers".

That is a big trap for others who want to help them.
Because of lacking of intimate relationship, they will attempt to close others.
They want you, they need you, they wish to be your friend desperately.
Therefor, one trick they usually play is they show their sadness and helpless and hopeless to you. They threat you as their savior. Without you, there is no hope in the world.

Unfortunately, there is no happy ending.
"Trouble Makers" have no willing to do anything for themselves.
They only sit and complain why the lives are so cruel to them.
And wish one day you could build an ideal world for them.

Here is still the worst situation.

Day by day, you encourage them, you spend time with them.

You think that you have to try your best, so they will be better soon.

One day, something happens beyond your ability.
You are not able to help any more.
Those "friends" start to blame you instead of the bad lives.

Their roles become the victims of your unable.

To be a helper, I must be aware of these MISERABLE "Trouble Makers".

Dear friend, I am fine with everything

Dear Friend,

Thank you for asking, I am fine with everything, although day is busy. I am so happy to hear you that you have settled down in the new place. (but somehow I feel sounds your dog is the luckest one. haha..!)

I think you might already know that here is almost the same, but someone told me that Canadian S. rarely shows up in the office now. I am wondering where he is. Are there somewhere he rather to be than the school?

I am getting better and better to cope the job. Aaron and I still have some disaggrements. Good thing is we know each other better now. Sometimes we argued, but after argued, we sit down and talked to find out the problems. I wish this kind arguements would not harm the relationship between us. In fact, the arguements help us to know difference between, and learn to respect the one who brings up the different opions.

Another good news is in the semester we have more kids in Ren Ai. I was surprised that Aaron is going to take classes for the elementary school students. He is reading some interesting books for them at that class. I am so happy that more and more people around me are offering themselves to help people now. I think we are such honest and good people, no wonder more kids want to come to our school.

About the teachers, yes, those guys that you mentioned are still teaching here. For expanding school, we have tried some new guys, but you know, we always look for someone who is really good at teaching kids. Somehow, teaching is kind of talend. I don't think everyone is able to teach well. Do you happenly have someone in mind to recommend to us? I think Aaron would be very appreciated.

I am busy for my studying and jobs. And I am taking as many as I can workshops on weekends now. I got a feeling that I was going to burning out last month. Fortunately, this week we had a three days holiday for Double Ten Day. I refreshed myself by taking a course in a health club. It was a wonderful vacation for me both of inside and outside. I would like to call it a rebirth. haha!!

Anyway, I will find time to have fun. I am getting better and better to stay away from some trouble makers. I don't want to burn out for sure. So dear friend, let me know your news from time to time and talk to you soon.

Burning out~~~~~~~~!

I got a feeling about my life recently. I feel that I am going to burn out by my everyday life. Why feel so frustrated? I think might be the Autumn. Teacher said in this season people live in New York usually go see psychologists or doctors. I think it must be a hard time for those doctors. But yesterdays news reported a famous doctor killed himself...sigh...

Is everyone here going to burn out too?????????

在世為苦，偏偏一點身不由己 (轉貼)

在世為苦，偏偏一點身不由己

前兩天我一個住院病人老太太出院了，給我很大的啟示。 常常我覺得人要謙虛，這話是不錯的，特別是對自己說。

上週值班來了一位左側股骨頸骨折的病人，骨折稍有移位。 七十幾歲。有慢性腎功能衰竭，腎臟科醫師早勸他洗腎，還有她今年四月才診斷出有肝癌末期，腫瘤很大，已經不能手術，肝功能也已經障礙了，Ammonia 超過正常值。

我在急診室對家屬說，老太太的骨折很單純，手術很簡單，只要三公分不到的傷口就可以完成，開完刀拿助行器保護三個月就會恢復。 問題在於她的肝功能和腎功能都介於衰竭的臨界點。

手術中麻醉是一大挑戰，開完刀之後的照顧更是要非常小心，很容易出狀況。開刀非常順利，麻醉也沒事情，手術後三天患者狀況良好。我說，趁她現在很好，趕緊出院回家吧，醫院裡很多細菌，給她更多的醫療處置更是多增危險而已。

我們會診，放射治療科醫師說病人只能做安寧治療了，別考慮化學治療或是放射治療。在這個病人的住院過程中，每一步可能的變化都被我料到，如在高岡指揮作戰。 不過卻敗在家屬手上。

等我查房走了，最孝順的小兒子要求自費打白蛋白，拗他不過，我的住院醫師就開給病人。結果打了隔天病人昏迷不醒，Ammonia 飆到兩百多，又沒有小便了，開始洗腎。我跟家屬說，病人癌症末期，打這麼多藥反而是負擔，應該認清這個事實，趁著病人意識還清楚，和她說說話，多盡孝道。

可是很抱歉，我說的話他們聽不懂。 意識不清楚，要求做電腦斷層；肝不好，要求做腹部超音波。病人昏迷了近三天，終於家屬理解生命與醫療都有其極限。 帶她回去要讓她像古早的人一樣，安詳走過生命最後一段。 鼻胃管拔了，尿管留著。我們還給她預備了肝昏迷的診斷書預備過世之後給驗屍的檢察官參考。

醫療能給一個癌症末期的病人什麼？ 我確定讓她在昏迷之中過世，遠比把她救醒、讓她在清醒之後接受一大堆痛苦的治療、到最後還是死去要好多了。 可是大家都沒有經驗，所以我們向家屬解釋的時候，家屬不見得都能理解。

這件事情有個出乎意外的結局。 病人昨天回家一個晚上，今天竟然清醒了，恐怕是因為完全沒有吃藥的緣故。病人說身體有點不舒服，所以家屬又送來急診室住了院。

我乍聽這個消息，彷彿從高岡上跌落泥水坑。 我以為我在主導她的治療，結果完全不是這麼回事。 在我推演到最終結局，正要將這個病例結束之時，誰知道還有一章呢？ 上帝將她拉回來，讓我知道，我該謙虛一點，像家屬一樣，面對生死，我其實還是很無知的。

昨天晚上參加醫院裡外科主任的父親的追思禮拜，我們為他獻詩歌。 他在近幾個月才受洗，所以死後安排的是基督教的儀式。 唱詩歌和牧師證道的時候，我都想起我那昏迷回家的病人，那時我還不知道她會醒過來，所以我覺得她好可惜，正如許多人一般，就這麼白白去了。 去哪裡呢？天堂？ 還是地獄？

我的信仰讓我相信我獲得永生的確據，希望我死後，我的家人，朋友能因為我有好去處而覺得安慰；能期待將來再相見而懷著盼望。 在世為苦，偏偏一點身不由己。 我今天最後最後的想法是，我欠這個病人福音的債。我昨天為她的死感到可惜，所以上帝讓她回來了，我明天應該去跟她傳福音，願她也能得永生，榮耀歸於上帝。

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